I am a de-clutter advocate. I have never actually read Marie Kondo's books about tidying up to create a more joyful life. I am familiar with her concept that if something doesn't spark joy, get rid of it, and I totally agree.
Years ago I read somewhere that most women when getting dressed in the morning emotionally beat themselves up a dozen+ times before they even try something on. I found that to be true for myself. My old 'get ready' routine usually started with a mental wardrobe scan that typically sounded like, "I can't wear that, it makes me look fat. Oh, I don't like the color of that, it makes my skin look pale. Umm, this one isn't very comfortable... and so forth." I would say about 65-75% of my closet was of clothing that I kept for 'just in case' reasons. Incase all of my clothes are dirty, or incase I loose those 10 pounds, incase I have nothing else to wear, or incase I go to a wedding this spring, etc.
After realizing I was doing this every morning, I started to lean out my closet and the result was a happier start to my day. When everything in my closet feels good on my body, I enjoy how I feel in it, and I think I look good in it, my day starts of with simplicity.
I started making choices based on simpler questions- What is appropriate to wear today for the weather? What color am I drawn to? What makes me feel good today? I would wear the items I was excited to put on, instead of saving them for a 'more special' day. I stopped thinking about who I may see or if I am (or aren't) going out in public- because after all I am only dressing for myself! I started to like myself a little more each day.
When going through my closet I would ask myself TWO main questions and corresponding follow ups....
The questions are simple.
1. Does this spark joy? Do I feel good in it?
2. If not, why do I want to keep it? Is it because of the amount of money I spent on it or am I keeping it for memories sake? If it is for a memory, is it a good one? If it's because I spent a lot on it, wouldn't it be better to let another enjoy it, since I feel crappy in it anyways?
I found that keeping an item because of a memory was the silliest thing ever. I asked myself,If you are keeping for memories sake, what is the ACTUAL memory it provokes when you pick it up? Is it a good one? .I found that I was keeping an old basketball jersey t-shirt from middle school because, I still had it. When I asked myself what memory it brought up, the first memory that came to mind was of me running down the basketball court tugging at my t-shirt because I was chubby and I was uncomfortable when it would blow against my stomach. I was embarrassed because I thought people were looking at me. Wow, great memory. Let's keep that shirt! NOT!
I have great memories of playing basketball, none of which were tied to that t-shirt. So I donated it. For someone else to make a memory with it. The moral is, it didn't invoke a happy joyful memory, so I didn't keep it. There was nothing really to hold onto, other then fabric.
I strongly suggest only keeping items in your wardrobe that YOU make feel good. There are 100s of opinions out there. You only need to worry about ONE, and it's yours. When we dress for another, we are the only ones who get hurt. Other's opinions are unreliable. We just have to dress for ourselves.
Keep these questions in mind when you start adding more items into your wardrobe. When you shop ask yourself why you want to buy it? Does it make you feel good? Does it spark joy? This helps to maintain a wardrobe that makes you feel good. It helps to curb SALE sprees and impulse buying also minimizing your opportunity to beat yourself up in the morning! This helps you start shopping with a purpose.
I watched Youtube videos on how Marie Kondo folds and physically organizes a space. She has some great techniques to keep your closets+ eye appealing and joy creating. Marie organizes by color, suggests keeping everything neat, in place, and easily accessible. I really enjoyed initially setting up my drawers and closets in this manner. I found that, a decent folded shirt was good enough for my day-to-day life and abandoned her method of folding shirts. For me, it took to much time to put my laundry away with a 15 month old unfolding half of it before I could get it in the drawers. I kept the things that enhanced my life, and let go of the things that didn't contribute value to me. I lovingly suggest the same to you. Take away what works with you, and let go of the rest. You can check out her books on Amazon- Spark Joy & The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I will read them someday and update this post.